~~~~TEEN√AGE~~~~

Don’t say to your daughter: “you’re getting fat”, “that’s a worry, you’ve gone up a size”, or “you can’t fit into that uniform any more”. She is supposed to be growing and going up sizes in her teenage years – her skeleton doubles in size during these years, for a start.
Always say clothes are too small – don’t make it seem that she is too big. Frame any comment about bodies in terms of health and what she can do with her body (run, play sport, dance, walk up stairs without puffing.) Tell her sizes are all mixed up depending on the brand. If you’re a woman, explain that in your wardrobe you have different label sizes on your clothes but they all fit you.
Talk with your girl about things she can say when somebody comments on her body shape and size, or is mean and insulting to her. Responses could include: “Go away, you’re boring me”; “I’m the right shape for me”; “Mind your own body image”; “Oh, get a grip”; “Who made you the Body Police?”; “Don’t worry about me changing my size – can you change your attitude?”
Bullies, and even siblings and other relatives, will often use mean words like “fat” or draw attention to new breasts and other changes. Girls who filled in the survey for my book, Girl Stuff, told me they could remember, even years later, the comment that set them on the road to an eating disorder.

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