Judges and county clerks reported a noticeable increase in couples wanting to get married.marring in a hurry isn’t necessarily a problem if you’re doing it for the right reasons
Before you and your partner take that first big step down the aisle, it’s prudent to ask yourselves a few questions first.
Are You Past the Infatuation Phase?
When couples rush into marriage, they should ask themselves, are they past the infatuation phase of romance? During the infatuation phase of a relationship, dopamine and nor epinephrine are triggered in people’s brains. They get butterflies in their stomach, they don’t sleep well, they daydream more, and their appetite fluctuates from day to day. They are literally on a chemical high.
This is when the old saying about love being blind rings true. Belief in the fairy tale myth of living happily ever after is high. In the beginning of relationships, people tend to put their best selves forward. During this initial infatuation phase, it’s easy to overlook red flags of behavior or beliefs that could ultimately make couples incompatible. It takes time to truly get to know someone, while some couples are able to make it work in the long term, other’s find they’re simply too different to cohabit.
This isn’t to say that the marriages of couples who raced down the aisle are doomed to face divorce court some day. However, the odds are against them. The romance novels and movies showing quickie marriages often don’t show the reality of a couple’s life later in their journey together.
Questions to Consider
Ask yourself these questions before you rush to the alter
Marrying quickly isn’t always a red flag. When couples are committed to making their relationship work there’s no stopping them. Asking hard questions, in the beginning, is a great way to lay a firm foundation for a love that can last a lifetime.