Whether a man is nagged or not is totally within his control.
Women take no joy in nagging men. The two challenging things a man has to do if he wants to stop being nagged are:
Firstly, be your word, no matter what. If you say you will do something, then do it joyfully, no excuses! When you don’t follow through, you weaken your integrity. She will grow to distrust you. Eventually, she’ll nag you because she doesn’t trust you to mean what you say.
Before you agree to do something, think about whether or not you are willing to do it. You may not have the time to complete the task; you may be agreeing just to keep the peace (which never works); or you may be parroting your father’s old, toxic ‘strategy’ with your mother.
Secondarily, learn how to say No with kindness and mean it. While she may not like it, she will respect your clarity. Making decisions out of the need to be liked, is no way to garner respect of self or others.
Owen Williams has been directing men in developing character for over twenty-five years. In the past he has led men’s groups and retreats as well as co-hosting a successful Radio show called GuyTalk. He is the author of The Relationship Revolution, which highlights the need to take both divorce and misery off the table. Check out Owen’s website relationshipexcellence.com